Posted on September 21, 2008 - by Amanda

To Be Decisive

Some women have a very difficult time making a quick decision. Some vacillate over the slightest dilemma, taking 20 minutes to choose a coffee beverage or asking the server for assistance over which menu item to order. This indecision, this hesitation can cause great distress. We will outline some definite steps you can take to develop a more decisive nature and make peace with it once you do. There are certainly root causes leaving such a large segment of the population so torn between the mocha and the vanilla latte but we are here to help with active steps.

First when you are faced with a simple decision (like what to order for lunch or which brand to buy) make it swiftly. Don’t stop, don’t think too much, just take the first choice. Worst case scenario, you don’t care for the chicken strips and you’ll remember to try the soup & salad next time. Pretty soon you will realize that the options that have been overwhelming you are not life and death matters. They are petty little details hardly worth the time spent choosing between them. It is just lunch not surgery.

Next get playful. Deliberately try something you think you won’t like. At this stage keep to inexpensive, consumable decisions. Watch the movie that doesn’t interest you, try the weird specialty drink at the coffeehouse, let the chef cook your steak medium-rare. This is called living. It is venturing into new territory, sampling, tasting and trying. It is broadening your horizons. As you try new things, as you practice decision making you’ll get better at it. Choices will come faster, dilemmas will be less scary, alternatives will be appealing instead of paralyzing.

Finally apply your new found freedom to something a little more serious. Buy the red paint and apply it liberally to the kitchen wall, accept the invitation to join your friend on a road trip, on a whim and go for that extra-short haircut.