Comments on: Small Children in Public Places

By: Shower Baths

Shower Baths — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 16:12:21 +0000

Well well stated. Brilliant writing! I trust we'll be hearing more? I would be really interested in hearing more about Small Childern. Amanda Keep Posting up good work .. !!!

By: Guest

Guest — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 19:37:28 +0000

Yikes, children, my ovaries contract just at hearing their wails in every public place I am in at one time or another. Wanting & having children should be avioded like the plague (for real!)

By: Annom

Annom — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 22:25:22 +0000

You right, it's not easy being a child or parent.
When my child acts out in church or at any public setting, we go outside or to a private area to deal with the issue the child is having. Sitting and letting them make a scene is only teaching them it is okay to act out for attention. It also is teaching children it is fine to be inconsiderate of others. Ignoring them only makes the child desire your attention more. That teaches the child that misbehavior is okay since they are not being told otherwise. Sometimes kids act out, it's normal. It is our responsibility as their parents to teach them how to act in public. A two year old will not sit through a complete church service without a peep. It is wrong to expect that, but a teaching them that it is not appropriate behavior develops strong adults. You cannot expect strangers to tolerate your child because they are going through challenges. You have to teach your child to deal with their challenges when there are strangers around. Or take them out of the situation if it is not good for the child to deal with their challenges around others. Sometimes it offends people without kids, but there are times where a grocery store is the perfect place to let the child see how others react to their misbehavior. There is always a line.
My problem with parents today is that they wear out very easily. I don't mean to offend. After hours of trying to accomplish things and kids bringing every dandelion in the yard, "washing" the dog in the master bathroom, and begging for an iphone while you have all ready told them "when your grades improve". Going to the store with the kids is can be the tip of the iceburg before a nervous breakdown. The general public has no way of knowing (or caring) what your day has been like. Your kids expect you to never break down, and they will push all limits. They must know how to behave in public. They wont know unless you pull that last string before you kill over, and teach them. I'll never know how my mother did it, she was a single mom of four who home schooled on top of supporting us all the way through without assistance from my father. She always said if you teach them when they are young and cute to behave, they will do it without realizing it when they are older. I do not believe this is too "old fashioned" for our day.

By: Bathroom Taps

Bathroom Taps — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 22:15:05 +0000

This blog is brilliant, I really enjoyed reading your detailed explanation on this subject. I don't fully agree with it but its good to see so many people commenting on it.

I will link your page from mine.

By: akpatchin

akpatchin — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 14:40:33 +0000

I don't know how much I enjoyed reading it, it just sounds so painful. It is so hard in those moments to do anything that makes us or anyone else feel any better about the situation.

I wrote this for two reasons. One: I was at mass on Ash Wednesday with a Catholic friend and Luc was very loud. No one was rude but I was afraid of it the whole time. Two: I used to be one of the perpetually annoyed until I started to realize that stillness and silence are absurd things to expect little people to be able to maintain for very long.

By: aRe

aRe — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 20:44:41 +0000

Very interesting you mention all this. Reminds me of a good ol' post from my blog from my very own life! You will thoroughly enjoy reading this, I assure you: http://greencathedral.blogspot.com/2006/05/mac-an...

By: Lady Hatton

Lady Hatton — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 21:52:44 +0000

Yes, I echo that. My older son has AS and when he was younger and we were still learning to deal with it we had numerous "difficult moments". The other tip I would offer about any young children, AS or not, is to not try to finish "just one more errand". You have to learn to quit while you're ahead. In other words, try to end everything on a high note

By: Clare

Clare — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 05:32:19 +0000

Thanks so much for including Asperberger's in this post. My brother has Asperberger's and we've had some very awkward situations in public places and people's annoyed looks definitely don't help.